When people think “self-help”, they think of people studying books, podcasts, or audio books in order to change the thing in their life that they think needs improvement.
This is often done alone, hence the name “self-help”. But this doesn’t have to be the case.
Support systems are almost always necessary in developing new habits. Here’s how to build one for yourself.
Whether you are trying to lose weight and change unhealthy dieting habits, you need to develop healthy coping mechanisms instead of destructive ones, or if you are battling some form of addiction, some things are just done better with a group supporting you.
These support systems help keep you on your path, offering advice, encouragement, and accountability as you are working towards betterment.
Changing isn’t easy, it takes a lot of self-control. By building a support system, it takes a little of the pressure off yourself.
Everyone messes up on their journey. On your own, it’s easier to become discouraged and give up on your progress. But with a good support system, you will be able to move past this mistake and move closer to your goals with more ease.
To build a support system that’s right for you, there’s a few things you need to do.
First, determine what your goals are. Do you want to lose weight and start exercising? Or are you facing a drug or alcohol addiction and are trying to get sober? Maybe there was a trauma in your life that you just can’t seem to heal from.
Identify what it is that you want to change and write it down.
Next, write down three main goals that you want to focus on.
Now that you have your goals, determine if you want to try and go it alone, or if you need support reaching these goals.
For fitness, you could find beginner classes at a gym, or join a running group. You could meet with a nutritionist and create a custom plan to work on at home. If you are someone who wants support, but doesn’t want to meet with people in person, there are plenty of Facebook groups devoted to healthy living and weight loss. There, you can find one that is best for you and your goals.
If you are facing an addiction, we recommend finding a support group. There are many groups that are anonymous that can give you the support and help you need. If you are uncomfortable being in a group setting, speak with a doctor or therapist. They can provide you with confidential help.
If you have gone through a traumatic experience and choose to find support, there are group therapy meetings where you can speak and share your experiences with others who have gone through the same. You can also speak with a doctor or therapist one-on-one. Having one person as support is better than going it alone.
Whether you seek professional help, help from an internet group, or support from friends and family, having a good support group is key in changing your habits and developing healthy new habits.
(h/t Better Change Project)