Upon getting married (and ideally before) – couples often discuss setting boundaries to help safeguard and protect their marriage.
While every couple is different – the ultimate goal is to shield the union of husband and wife against external threats.
But does this mean men and women should not have friends of the opposite sex?
Well, it depends on who you ask.
Some couples keep friendships as is while others set strict boundaries.
But at the end of the day – it’s important to remember these key principles.
Does It Honor Your Wife Or Husband?
In your single days, you may have gone out with a friend of the opposite sex for lunch or dinner and thought nothing of it.
But when one gets married – things change.
Your spouse is more important than any outside person (except of course Jesus), and it’s crucial to honor them.
What impression does it set if your wife is at home alone – and you’re out grabbing dinner with a friend?
Not to mention, it opens up the door to temptation – which is why it’s critical to set boundaries from the start to protect your marriage.
Many couples claim they would never “cheat” on their spouse…
… yet they neglect to realize that having a close emotional relationship with a member of the opposite sex is a form of betrayal.
Let’s face it – sometimes husbands and wives get into disagreements – and temptation lurks to “vent” to your friend about problems at home.
Not to mention – the friend may have developed romantic feelings for the married partner – further complicating the situation.
It’s best to not give the devil a foothold and to flee temptation.
Many people who end up destroying their marriage due to an affair claim it all started with an innocent work lunch with a member of the opposite sex.
Solutions And Safeguards
Instead, it’s healthy for married couples to find other married couples to socialize with.
This helps strengthen the marital bond and it’s encouraging when a group of friends is all committed to preserving the sacredness of marriage.
Consider making a rule with your spouse that you will not dine or be alone with a member of the opposite sex.
By remaining above reproach, you can flee from the temptations many married couples find themselves entangled with.
The fact of the matter is – when you get married your relationships with your former friends do change – this isn’t a bad thing – and your true friends will understand and support you.
(h/t Christian Life Daily)